# Kayla Moncur | How to be Married to an Engineer

- Show: [Being an Engineer](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/podcast/being-an-engineer)
- Published: 2022-08-12
- Length: 29m
- Episode: 30
- Page: https://hardwarepodcasts.com/podcast/being-an-engineer/2022-08-12-kayla-moncur-how-to-be-married-to-an-engineer
- Listen: https://teampipeline.us/kayla-moncur-married-to-an-engineer/

## Summary

Kayla Moncur, wife of host Aaron Moncur, shares insights on the dynamics of being married to an engineer, highlighting how her husband's engineering mindset influences their relationship and home life. She discusses the creation of 'The Engineer’s Relationship Flowchart,' a tool designed to help engineers interpret basic emotional needs like hunger or fatigue, and explains how this structured approach has improved their communication over 17 years of marriage. The episode also covers practical examples of engineering problem-solving in the home, such as 3D printing replacement parts for a barbecue and designing a library ladder, while touching on the differences between engineering and non-engineering decision-making processes.

## Chapters

- [0:00](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/podcast/being-an-engineer/2022-08-12-kayla-moncur-how-to-be-married-to-an-engineer#t=0) Introduction: Kayla Moncur and the premise of the episode
- [2:51](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/podcast/being-an-engineer/2022-08-12-kayla-moncur-how-to-be-married-to-an-engineer#t=171) Kayla and Aaron's whirlwind romance and marriage timeline
- [6:57](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/podcast/being-an-engineer/2022-08-12-kayla-moncur-how-to-be-married-to-an-engineer#t=417) Practical engineering applications in home repairs and projects
- [14:24](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/podcast/being-an-engineer/2022-08-12-kayla-moncur-how-to-be-married-to-an-engineer#t=864) The Engineer’s Relationship Flowchart for interpreting needs
- [18:02](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/podcast/being-an-engineer/2022-08-12-kayla-moncur-how-to-be-married-to-an-engineer#t=1082) Communication strategies: timing and early intervention
- [22:31](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/podcast/being-an-engineer/2022-08-12-kayla-moncur-how-to-be-married-to-an-engineer#t=1351) Decision-making differences: logical research vs. trust-based choices
- [25:15](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/podcast/being-an-engineer/2022-08-12-kayla-moncur-how-to-be-married-to-an-engineer#t=1515) Managing obsessive interests and introvert dynamics

## Topics

- [Industrial & consumer product design](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/topic/industrial-design)
- [Prototyping & iteration](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/topic/prototyping)
- [Leadership, teams & culture](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/topic/leadership-and-culture)
- [Careers & education](https://hardwarepodcasts.com/topic/engineering-careers-and-education)

## Most relevant to

early-stage companies

## Mentioned

- Pipeline Design & Engineering (company)
- The Engineer’s Relationship Flowchart (other)

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